Some people leave footprints on our heart..

“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some people move our souls to dance. They awaken us to a new understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom. Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon. They stay in our lives for awhile, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.”
― Flavia Weedn




http://lessonslearnedinlife.com/we-are-never-ever-the-same/

Why running with scissors?

On POF you have to think of a heading. I had no idea what my heading should be so I Googled online dating headings. I clicked on the 'best and worst of online dating headings' link.

These are the best examples of online headings:

1. And Now For Something Completely Different
2. The Whole Enchilada
3. A Gentleman and a Scholar
4. Not Perfect, But My Dog Thinks I’m Awesome
5. Travels Well
6. Traveling Boots and Dancing Shoes
7. Runs with Scissors
8. In My Mind, I Sing Just Like Sinatra
9. Willing to Lie About How We Met
10. Start By Dreaming
11. If Edison Had Been Afraid of the Consequences, We’d Still be Sitting In the Dark
12. Likes Dancing in the Rain
13. MaryInABox
14. Eats Desert First!
15. Ollie, Ollie, In Come Free!
16. He Who Hesitates is a Damn Fool (Mae West)
17. Life is about stepping out of your comfort zone
18. Passion and Ambition Seek the Same
19. Creating a New Ending
20. Iowa farm girl masquerading as East Coast intellectual
21. You Can’t Stay In Your Corner of the Forest Waiting For Others to Come to You. You Have to Go to Them Sometimes. (Winnie-the-Pooh)
22. Be Kind Whenever Possible. It is Always Possible. (Dalai Lama)
23. I seldom end up where I wanted to go, but almost always end up where I need to be. (Douglas Adams)
24. Flying is learning how to throw yourself at the ground and miss. (Douglas Adams)
25. I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose (Woody Allen)
26. Once in his life, a man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead (Lucille Ball)
27. Wears socks that match!

See number 7. I liked that the best. I am also primary school teacher. What do teachers constantly tell children not to do? Don't run with scissors! See the irony? I guess right now I am running with scissors. I have to take risks and not obey the rules. If I was obeying the rules I would have stayed with ex-boy toy. Boy meets girl. They fall in love. Boy buys a house. Girl lives with boy. They get married. Blah, blah, blah. 

On POF it did get me a lot of attention and starters for conversation as did the ' ignore the picture I look better in real life' tag line, but don't steal my ideas ladies. I will use it again if necessary. I didn't use ignore the picture I look better in real life on OKCupid. Damm, should have done to Mr I want to see more pictures! 

And the worst headlines are: 

Apparently these aren't made up. But for shits and gigs I might use one of them just to see, as a joke. 

1. “Hi”
2. “Active gluten free, organic food, traveler, hiker, nature admirer, searching for partner to enjoy everything life has to offer”
3. I have a few trust issues
4. Live, Laugh, Love
5. Likes Pina Coladas and taking walks the Rain
6. Looking for Ms. Right
7. Looking for my night in shinning armor (yes, we left the spelling mistakes intact)
8. I am seeking for true love. Could that be you?
9. Ready to move to the next level with that special woman who is after my heart
10. Looking for somebody wonderful
11. Not sure what to say
12. Does anyone actually read these things?
13. Yes I’ts me….LOL! (grammar left as was written)
14. I can’t believe I’m on a dating site
15. This is rather trite, don’t you think?
16. Can you make me love again?
17. Will fill this in later…
18. Insert funny headline here
19. Looking for Drama Free.. No Games!
20. Back Again..

For more: 

http://www.thedatinggurus.com/the-best-and-worst-of-dating-profile-headlines/

Rich second update, Cat Lady and OkCupid

So to make a long story short Rich and I arranged to see each other after I finished my placement and before he moved back home over the summer. We were bantering and being silly when he sent me this message as a reply:
'Did you put Christian or something on your profile? You know you are going to hell for what you said?'

I was like whoa that is a bit...not very nice. I was like there is it there is no way I am meeting up with someone who says something like that to me. I told him that it was offensive what he said and not very nice. Still he continued to joke about hell and me going to hell. I asked him not to joke about it. Then he got into a massive rant about how I had no proof that hell existed and that I was a 'crazy Christian' and that I was preaching to him. What an idiot! I never mentioned my faith to him at all. He was the one preaching about the bible being fairy stories. Yes, I am a Christian and I go to Church. But I am still open minded and believe that people should respect others opinions and ideas. I am not going to go into the whole God debate. I know what I believe and this isn't that kind of blog.

Whatever. Never mind. Like I said I am not looking for anything serious anyway. I need to get a job and my own place before dating.

I am really enjoying reading Cat Ladies blog which can be found here:

http://soon2becatlady.com/2012/09/16/lets-talk-about-twitter/

She writes about a lot of strange messages she gets and they are hilarious! I think maybe I will try online dating again once I am settled with my own life. But for now I am just going to let fate and God (I am a crazy Christian after all!) to the work and live my life. I am going to try and find love in the real world!

I had signed up to OkCupid which is another dating profile that Cat Lady often blogs about. It has a different  feel to POF or Plenty Of Fish. After seeing an email from OKC about my matches I was attracted to one of the guys photos, so I did to fill in my profile more. My only 'good' photos are of me in sunglasses so that is my profile picture (or was) for the time being. I message this good looking guy. He messaged me back asking for more photos. He said I looked cute but 'had to make sure'. Had to make sure I wasn't butt ugly? Well thanks love. He still badgered me for photos a few days ago. To be fair I was wearing sunglasses and I did try to put up another photo but it was taking ages, so gave up. I did explain this and tried to engage in normal conversation for example, what job do you have? He replied 'a great one lol.' *Sigh*. To be clear he didn't say what job he had on his profile.

Oh well, lets see what the universe has for me next. I am surprised Ted Mosby never tried internet dating on HIMYM

Rich Update

Rich and I have been bantering, for a little bit, this afternoon via text message. That was until he said I was boring him. 

I told him to go away. 

He said ‘I am doing’. I said, ‘good, go then.’ 

I haven’t had a text message back yet. Hehe. 

Banter is exhausting but sometimes it is fun. I wonder if he has noticed that I have deleted my Plenty Of Fish account? I also wonder if he is like this in real life (an idiot). Probably is. 

Crazy Cat Lady

Me and my children 

So, after less than a week of online dating I gave up and left the meat market. I got some nice messages from a few guys and they seemed very nice. Maybe I will give it another ago another time. I did get one guy asking if he could buy my used underwear. I said yes to see what he would say. But I didn’t hear back. Now, I will never know. What a shame he was offering 150 pounds I assume. Never mind, I was hoping to make some easy money.

HAHA 

But I did stumble upon a great blog about online dating called ‘Soon to be crazy cat lady.’ That will be me soon (get the violins out). The blog is about a lady’s experiences of dating online. She shares the hilarious messages she gets from men. You do get a lot of good writing material. I mean see how much I have written today! 




So being a writer and all I might go back to it if I am still single because of the strange people out there. She does write a lot of advice on dating and mentioned about that if guys live in their parents basement they shouldn’t be dating. This also made me think whether I should be dating and I should just sort out my life first by getting a job and my own place. She also mentions about who should pay on the first date? She says she wouldn’t go on a date if she couldn’t afford to pay her own way. I do have money but I don’t think I could afford to go out for dinner and drinks on a weekly basis, maybe coffee and possibly the cinema. She thinks is wrong to expect a man to pay, which I do as well and that is very feminist of her and I like that. 

Genius: 

http://soon2becatlady.com/

Rich

Underneath my profile picture I had written ‘ignore the picture I look better in real life.’ Rich messaged me saying ‘what if you actually look awful in real life.’

I told him that is the risk he is going to have to take.

So began the banter.

Looking at his photos I am attracted to him. He has beard and blond/brown hair. He is cute. But he has piercings and tattoos. But I still got his number out of him. We have been bantering through text messages and Whatapp. We have arranged to meet up but we are both students and busy with work. I like him. He sent me a message this morning saying he wanted to hug me and wasn’t taking no for answer. I jokingly accused him of being a rapist (yes that is my odd sense of humour) and I haven’t heard anything back. I have messaged him to see if he has recovered from his hangover. So let’s see if he replies. I hope I haven’t offended by calling him a rapist because I would like to meet with him. He suggested going to a museum on a date, which I kind of like. Yes he has message me back saying, ‘No, I am still in bed sulking.’ He is a bit rude, blunt and it is all about banter. I can’t be bothered with banter all the time. It is exhausting. But through his messages he can be nice as well. He did say some girls are a walk over and that bored him so he obviously likes the banter. Like I said banter can be exhausting. I can’t keep up banter forever.

I know I said I am not ready to date and the truth is I am not. I need to work on my career. I need to pass my QTS skills test. I need to get a job and I need to earn some money. I think I need to be on my own and not be committed to someone. I have depression and I need to find happiness. Personally, I think I am a little too young to find someone on the internet. Realising all this has made things a little bit clearer. But I do like Rich. I am happy to keep texting him for a while and then meet up and just see what happens.

I will let God and fate also do the work. I need to go out and meet people. I can’t just sit here and wait. I have to look good and feel good. Be happy and just work on my passion of teaching and writing. It does terrify me. I have doubts. What if I never find the one? What if never have children? That scares me. But I know that I want that eventually. Not right now. I need a career too before I can have all that. 

David

David is 35 and a writer. On his profile picture he is topless and has a nice body. He messaged me saying that he was shy. Hmm, well you are confident enough to have a topless picture on a dating website and message me first.

I did like his body, but still thought he was a little bit too old for me.  We messaged a bit and he told me that he was going on a date. I was like, ‘good I see you are not keeping all your eggs in one basket.’

The next day he messaged me saying that his date went okay, but there was no spark. He gave me his number. I decided to message him via my telephone. We messaged back and forth. We then asked me out on a date. I said I lived in a village outside the city.

Okay I will come to you, he said.

No you won’t.

I said I didn’t want to meet in the village because there is not much there.

‘There is your house,’ he said.

Okay, like I am going to let a strange man into my house. This was the point where I sort of thought I still live with my parents I can’t bring men back here. Even if I lived on my own I would never bring a man back to my house, especially when I don’t know them.

I told him I would let him know. I wasn’t sure about him. He suggested meeting in the city. But I didn’t reply.

Friday was a gorgeous day and he messaged me asking if I was sunbathing.  I didn’t reply because I could imagine I would get a sordid reply about me being in a bikini.

On Saturday morning, after telling Markus it was never going to happen, I told David the same but in a shorter message. I also said that I would never bring back men I didn’t know to my house.

‘I said that as joke,’ he said.

‘Funny,’ I replied.

‘Happy fishing,’ he said.

Hmm, more like happy sieving, sieving out the idiots.